As usual, I spent my free time reading Atty. Connie Veneracion's blog.
Apart from teaching how to be a better cook, her site is a goldmine of useful information for wives and mothers alike. Yesterday, I came across an article that she wrote three years ago that struck a chord in me.
Here is an excerpt:
I’m Asian and was raised up in a typical Asian family, which meant ideals like meeting my parents’ expectations and repaying them for raising me were already woven into my life before I was even conceived…
Your parents are responsible for raising you. You are not responsible for them. Although it’s honorable to make sure your parents have a good life, don’t do it out of guilt.
Remember, realizing that you don’t owe your parents isn’t enough. You have to accept it and get over the guilt. That’s the most important point you have to remember. You have to practice snapping yourself out of that guilt or you’ll end up shaping your life the way they see fit. To me, living a fake life or one that you’re not happy with is worse than suicide.
To read the full article, click here.
I always tell Chocoboy, I am truly thankful that God found me worthy enough to have him. He is truly the best blessing in my life. I want him to live out his life the way he wants to. I want him to be happy. While it is true that he is our (TSA and moi) responsibility, it is because we decided to have him. People have kids because they made the choice to forever have their hearts go walking around outside their bodies. We will never burden our son with the thought that he needs to take care of us when we are older. The same goes for his little brother Tyler who is due to come out on September. This is not a case of "re-paying" as I have heard other parents impose on their kids. We are not your responsibilities. Your dad and I have lived our lives. We will be happiest when we see the two of you live yours.